“They Hate Me!”: Dating Some Guy With Teenagers

By Jackie Pilossoph, Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling, Love basically author and columnist

A few years back, a buddy of mine who had been dating a man with young ones thought to me, “Today is my boyfriend’s daughter’s 16 th birthday celebration. I acquired her a dozen flowers and a package of her favorite chocolates.”

We replied, “That’s good.”

My buddy reacted, “What does it matter? She’ll nevertheless hate me.”

Dating a man with children may be very hard. Here are a few things to consider:

1. The youngsters might feel if they are kind to the girlfriend like they are being disloyal to their mother.

It’s this that I’ve discovered through the years. No one’s boyfriend’s kids hate them. IT’S never PRIVATE.

I have buddy that is in her own forties, who explained that her parents got divorced in senior high school and therefore she was really mean to her dad’s gf (who’s now their spouse) for a long time. She stated she wound up apologizing towards the girl years later on, because she knew it wasn’t the girl she disliked, it absolutely was HER feeling resentful that her dad wasn’t along with her mother.

Listed below are a few recommendations on dating a man with young ones.

1. Think in this way. They’re not the kids. Don’t attempt to play the role of these mother. Continue reading